The Benefits of Group Coaching: How to Build Community & Connections for Women
For a number of years now, I’ve been exploring holding space for open discussions in coaching settings — what I call ‘blistered’ conversations — about all sorts of topics, but usually the uncomfortable ones. What I have come across is how much women enjoy being in a space where they can talk freely about what’s really on their mind: ranging from self-limiting beliefs, to not having a clue about what they want career-wise, to feeling inadequate about aging in the workplace.
I recently finished leading a four-month group leadership programme; when I asked the women what they had found most beneficial, nearly all expressed the ability to connect with and learn from their peers on a personal level, fostering community with their colleagues and building each other up along their career paths. During tough career conversations in a group setting, there is often a collective sigh of relief and gratitude when women hear from others what has truly, madly, deeply been going on in their lives. We work together to dispel and break down shared concerns and fears in support of everyone’s growth and transformation.
Belenky et al. wrote a seminal book: Women's ways of knowing (1986), focused on the psychological development of women. Their research found that environments providing the most supportive and encouraging learning experience for women were those that promoted connected teaching in relationship with others, where women found themselves learning by observing themselves — as well as others — through shared stories and experiences.
Cue women’s spaces, circles, clubs popping up everywhere nowadays — because women yearn for and appreciate every opportunity to connect, discover, learn from, and receive support from one another. These communities are of immense benefit to women. And the most effective and successful spaces are those where trust is built and maintained through facilitation and leadership — because trust breeds courage and vulnerability, which in turn paves the way for genuine conversations.
In any career exploration, vulnerability is at the forefront because it forms a large part of our identity; hence, anything career-focused requires an inviting and uplifting environment. So if you are looking to hold space for blistered conversations, here are five things to bear in mind:
Be Safe, Not Sorry
Any and all conversational spaces benefit immensely from establishing psychological safety — this means identifying what the group agrees to (norms) that will serve the group for the duration of the sessions.
Be the Hawk
Watch and listen. Who is talking, and how often? What is the energy in the space? Are you keeping track of time?
Lighten the Load
People need to be in the right mindset to create an atmosphere conducive to joy. What are some things you can introduce to help facilitate that (e.g. uplifting music or a virtual game)? Establish something to crack some smiles and put people in a positive mindset — which is imperative for personal exploration, discovery, and connection.
Vie for Vision Accomplished
Remember to always have the end in mind. What is the purpose of these sessions? What are we trying to accomplish? Be clear on the expectations.
Make It Yours
A space must be reflective of who you are. As a contagious optimist, I aim to lead with enthusiasm and joy to inspire women.
And speaking of meaningful conversations and group support in an uplifting environment: I’m thrilled to be launching my signature Career Boost Camp in a six-week virtual setting this September. It’s back and it’s a boost you won’t want to miss! If you’re currently stuck in a rut, looking for ways to grow and explore your next career move — with tools and research-backed methods led by yours truly, and the support of an international community of women, you’ll find your way out. Send me a message to let me know you’re interested, and you’ll be the first to receive more info next month.
With joy,
Dr. Helen
